BDSM Bisexuals weekend 22-23 March 2014

BDSM-bisexuals

weekend event, 22-23 March 2014

Birmingham


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See abbreviated accounts - the event made a loss of £685

It happened! I think it went well. Thank you to all who came and contributed! I'm collecting donations towards costs so we can break even (Registrations covered about 1/2 costs). I'm asking for a donation based on what the event was worth to you and what you can reasonably afford. I can use online transfer to grantdenkinson@hushmail.com or email me if you want to do a bank transfer or post a cheque or something.

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Bring and swap space

There will be space to bring and swap clothes, books, toys and the like.

Remember to bring identification

We need to be sure you are over 18

Workshop sessions!

Some workshop sessions have been planned. Some are in planning. Some ideas might happen if there is enough interest.

The second BDSM-bisexuals event will take place in new venues this year, though still near Birmingham.

I previously planned to use the same venue as last year and have changed plans. We will now have exclusive use of the Xtasia club in West Brom for the Saturday and Sunday daytimes and I'm arranging a playparty at a different spot, to be announced, for the Saturday night. Read more about the venues.

If you are booked to stay near the previous venue and don't want to change hotel I'll smooth transport. I'll also help make transport reasonably easy between the daytime and party venues.

Booking is now open!

You can book via Xtasia by phone and credit or debit card or by contacting me any way you like or using this handy booking page and then paying on the door. I'll need to know what name to call you, how to contact you and because the club will check photo identification on the door, purely to confirm that participants are over 18 years old, we'll need to know whatever name will match your i.d. I understand some people do not wish their legal name or any other details to be widely known: details will not be shared other than for contacting you before the event and checking age on the door and will not be retained.

Feel free to contact me with any questions that this website does not fully answer for you.

This page has sections on [Who is the event for?] [What will happen at the event?], [Ethos], [Where will the event be held?], [When is the event?], [How much does it cost?] [Who's running the event?] [Why run an event like this?] [Contact]


Who is the event for?

The BDSM-bisexuals weekend event is for bisexuals and the bi-friendly interested in any form of BDSM or kink.

(BDSM: B&D = bondage & dominance or bondage & discipline, D&S = dominance & submission, S&M = sadism & masochism, basically any form of power exchange or fetish, bodily practice or sensation play that you might like so long as it's done with good informed consent of everyone involved.)

The event is broadly aimed at kinky bisexuals and friends, partners and allies. You don't need to call yourself bisexual, kinky or anything else to come. You don't need to be bisexual enough or kinky enough to come in. As long as you are bi friendly and BDSM friendly and agree with our code of conduct you are welcome to join us. There isn't a dress code apart from some restrictions.

This event is for adults over the age of 18 who can give informed consent.

What will happen at the event?

Saturday will have a timetable of workshop sessions (more details as I book them, here are the 2014 workshops so far and some ideas) which will be chances to talk about various aspects of kink and bisexuality. These will probably include personal exploration of sexuality, community wide discussions, demonstrations of toys or techniques and chances to try things out in a supervised environment. There will also be plenty of space for informal social time.

On Saturday evening there will be a well-run fetish / BDSM play-party. There will be clear ground rules on conduct and I intend it to be welcoming both to people who have never been to such a thing and to people who spend lots of time on the kink scene. Here is the code of conduct / ground rules About this BDSM-bisexuals event and you. You can play with folks who want to play with you, or just watch and enjoy the atmosphere. The party will be at a different venue and will be open only to those who are BDSM-bisexuals weekend attendees. The new party venue is different than the one previously used and I'll provide details as people book and can arrange transport.

Sunday will involve more sessions featuring talking, listening, watching and trying things out, as well having further space to just be at the event and talk to people who are interested in chatting with you.

Our daytime venue, Xtasia, have an event on the Sunday immediately following our event: Sinday Pleasures from 4 p.m. until approximately 10 p.m. This will be run as a separate event from BDSM-bisexuals rather than by me. We are welcome to join them for an additional ten pounds.

Ethos

I want the whole diverse range of human consensual sexual and kink interests and practices to be accepted and appreciated, and for everyone to be supported in being themselves fully. I would like people to use the event to think about, talk about and perhaps explore their own sexuality and interests. I want there to be clear boundaries around consent and risk-aware consensual kink. I want people to be able to find and form friendships and community with like-minded others or feel happily not intruded upon.

I want to lower any barriers to full participation.

Some people in society are regularly disadvantaged compared to more privileged others and this happens in the BDSM and bisexual communities too. I want to take a clear stance on this event being an actively anti-oppressive space. Entering power exchanges in play or lifestyle can be lovely. But nobody should be forced or coerced or feel they are doing anything without positive, enthusiastic and free choice.

I hope everyone will take part in making the space welcoming and good for all. There will be clear ground rules. I also hope to include advice for the many of us who are accidentally part of prejudice out of habit or from not seeing the problems because we don't get affected by them as much. I will try to help sort out any problems and am open to hearing about my own blind-spots. I would like to invite people of any group regularly discriminated against to have space of their own during this event, such as workshop space for women only or a play or chill out space for black and minority ethnicity / people of colour only.

Information versus hedonism

I want the event to be both informative and community building as well as fun. If you want to come and watch and listen and discuss you would be most welcome. Consent is key and pressuring anyone to do anything is unacceptable. If you want some informal chatting time and a good party, I expect that will happen too! I prefer to be clear about what people can expect, particularly since this is only the second event of its kind. That means I can be a bit wordy and detailed. If I wanted to just throw an orgy I would say so!

Where will the event be held?

Changed! See venues page for more details.

Saturday and Sunday daytimes we will have exclusive use of Xtasia, info@xtasia.co.uk, Tel: 07850 236053, Address : Xtasia, Sopreme Nightclub, 140A High Street, West Bromwich, West Midlands, B70 6JJ, England

Saturday night there will be a playparty at a different location and I will help arrange transport and will share more details with those registered. This in only for people who are coming to other parts of the weekend.

As last year, the BDSM-Bisexuals weekend will be held near Birmingham (England) - with good public transport. Birmingham is well served by transport links from around the UK and beyond. A quick check showed me that someone could leave London around 9 a.m. on the Saturday, go to the whole event and get back by 6 p.m. on the Sunday.

Where do I stay?

There are a number of places to stay in the area and the daytime venue has good public transport links. You'll need to make your own accomodation arrangements; I am not organising accomodation. The club we will be using for the daytimes, Xtasia, recommend and have deals with some local hotels. Since there was a recent change of venue and some people are already booked to stay near the older venue, I will help smooth travel as needed.

What's the venue like?

Please see the venues page for more details. We are using a long established and BDSM and bisexual friendly swingers club for the Saturday and Sunday daytimes and a kink venue for the Saturday night party. I am sorry to say there are some accessibility restrictions at both venues and I will do what I reasonably can document them here and to lower barriers to participation.

When is the event?

The BDSM-bisexuals event will run from Saturday 22nd - Sunday 23 rd March 2014.

What time do we start and end?

I will open at 10 a.m. on the Saturday for an 11 a.m. start to give people the chance to travel, and then finished on Sunday for 4 p.m., ending activities at 3 p.m. Our venue have an event immediately after ours which we are welcome to join, see the venues page.

How much does it cost?

I ask for a door cost and then an optional anonymous donation at the end of the event

Booking is now open.

The full booking/door rate is £25 and the concessionary rate will remain £5. The concessionary rate is open to all who need it and you don't need to explain why. If £5 is not affordable please get in touch since I don't want to turn anyone away for lack of funds.

The donation I ask for at the end is what you think the event has been worth to you and what you can reasonably afford.

If you are unsure if the event will be worth £25 to you, feel free to chose the concessionary rate and make a donation later if you think the event was worth more to you.

While I am not organising accomodation, one of the reasons I chose Birmingham is that it isn't as expensive as some places to get to and to stay.

I will publish accounts for the event and any surplus will be used to pay expenses and then put towards other projects around BDSM or bisexuality of my choice.

Who's running the event?

The event is being organised by me, Grant Denkinson, and I take responsibility for it. I ran last year's. I am glad to have help from a number of volunteers. I've been closely involved with the bisexual movement and community for about twenty years as well as various parts of the BDSM communities. I have also organised within wider Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans. and queer communities and in broad umbrella coalitions interested in gender, sexuality and relationships including polyamory and other non-monogamies.

Feel free to check my credibility with anyone who knows of me - I can hardly vouch for myself.

Why run an event like this?

It worked really well last time - positive feeback from eveyone!

I noticed many people into kink at bisexual events and many people who do BDSM are interested in more than one gender and I thought that we could have a good event together. The event last February was as far as I know the first event of this kind. I think we will enjoy ourselves and also learn more about what we might want in the future. We won't need to worry about taking over too much of a general bisexual / queer / LGBT space to talk about BDSM or being ourselves in spaces that we aren't sure understand and welcome sexual orientation that isn't straight or gay.


Please do get in touch with any questions.


Contact:

email: info@bdsm-bisexuals.org.uk or grantdenkinson@hushmail.com

phone / text: 07775 164815

Write: c/o BCN, BM Ribbit, London WC1N 3XX - with thanks to Bi Community News

All information given to me will be used for running this event only not given away or sold.


Last modified by Grant Denkinson, 2014.5.11

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